Those of us working in Information Security and Information Technology all know the cost of doing business.\u00a0 Late nights, working lunches (if you get a lunch at all), and 70 hour weeks are common if not expected.\u00a0 They are part of the job.\u00a0 We know it, but we suck it up and do it anyway.\u00a0 As bad as it is, these are the relatively innocuous aspects of the job that we just put up with, building up a callous over the years.\u00a0 We establish this as our baseline for what is normal.\u00a0 In our field, we care about our work.\u00a0 We understand that lives can be destroyed when make a mistake.\u00a0 A raided bank account can leave a family unable to pay its mortgage. A defaced website, or network outage can push a company into financial distress or effect sales; both of which put jobs on the line.\t\tBeyond this baseline are the wounds and festering sores that if untreated can send our personal and professional lives into chaos.\u00a0 I\u2019m referring to the missed birthday parties, anniversaries, and Little League games.\u00a0 Don\u2019t stop there.\u00a0 Consider working on vacation, the holidays spent at the office, and the times we tell our loved ones \u201cjust one more email\u201d. We push these off to the dusty corners of our mind.\u00a0 Perhaps to relieve guilt, perhaps just to rationalize our behavior telling ourselves that it\u2019s okay just this once.\u00a0 The problem is that it isn\u2019t just once.\u00a0 More and more, I see this as becoming the new normal.\u00a0 It\u2019s happening across industries and in organizations of all sizes.\u00a0 The expectation is quickly becoming that we are at the whim of the business.\u00a0 We are its property.\u00a0 We give up these little bits of ourselves on demand.\u00a0 These little nicks, one here, one there, add up.\u00a0 They fester.\u00a0 Our very own dedication to protect the public, and to safeguard our own organizations turns against us. It eats away at our lives and more importantly the lives of our friends and families.\tOur dedication, our loyalty to the business takes us away from our loved ones.\u00a0 It separates us physically and perhaps emotionally from our children, spouses, partners, friends and family.\u00a0 It steals from all of us the joy of seeing those first steps, the candles blowing out, or that last chance to say goodbye.\u00a0 We\u2019ll never get these moments back. \u00a0\tLife happens.\u00a0 It puts things in perspective.\u00a0 We can choose to learn from the past or fall victim to our own blindness.\u00a0 It\u2019s just a job.\u00a0 At the end of the day there are two paths that we can take.\u00a0 We can spend our days falling prey to this new normal.\u00a0 We can give ourselves over to the machine, the business, the beast with the eternal appetite.\u00a0 Knowing that it can never be satiated by our labors.\u00a0 Alternately, we can learn from our mistakes, from the misfortune of others, we can hit the reset button on our lives.\u00a0 We can wake up tomorrow and make the conscious decision to put our families and ourselves first.\u00a0 We can learn that the machine will always need fuel, the beast will need to be fed, and we can refuse to give in, to be more fodder.\tIt\u2019s just a job.\tWe can work smarter.\u00a0 We can set limits.\u00a0 We can prioritize.\u00a0 I\u2019m not advocating going in to work on Monday and refusing to work anything but an eight hour day.\u00a0 Rather, I\u2019m suggesting that we look at how we spend our time and make wise use of it.\u00a0 Time is a precious and finite resource and shouldn\u2019t be thrown away on valueless tasks.\u00a0 We need to understand that just as our employers can toss us away tomorrow, so to can our friends and family leave us in the blink of an eye. \u00a0\tI\u2019ve had the privilege of learning this lesson in time to steer back on course.\u00a0 I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve seen or experienced your \u201cshot across the bow\u201d.\u00a0 Did you heed the warning?\u00a0 Do you understand the costs?\u00a0 Tomorrow when you wake up Anonymous will still be here, so too cross site scripting, and sql injection.\u00a0 Will your family and your friends?\u00a0 Our lives, and those of our families are worth more than that \u201cone more email\u201d.\u00a0 Our parents, children and friends are worth more than finishing that report this weekend.\u00a0 In the words of Mark Twain, \u201cTwenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.\u201d\u00a0 Twenty years from now will you regret spending more time at work, or spending more time with your family?\u00a0 The decision is yours.\u00a0 Choose wisely.